Keeping in touch with friends from home
So no one told you life was gunna be this way… *clap clap clap clap*
You’ve braved the big wide world of uni life, but you are missing your mates from home. Of course you are, they’re your besties, and they’re one of the reasons you’re here - they supported you to get to uni in the first place.
It can be overwhelming when you first arrive at Uni, and friends from home may seem like a distant memory. But in between the nights out, the nights in, lectures and your new life, remember to check in on those from home.
It’s easy to see a message from your friends and if you don’t reply straight away, it might slip your mind to get back to them. Put some time aside each week to check in with your mates - check your messages, pop on your facebook group or your group chat and just see how they are doing. It might mean the world to some and others will really appreciate you thinking of them, and it won’t take too much of your time just to type out a ‘how you doing?’ message.
Pen to paper
Writing a letter might seem a dated past time, but it's a really personal way to check in with someone, other than just sending a text. You can send a card, a postcard from your new home, or even put together a little care package together for them, filled with memories of you two together - pictures, notes, drawings, your favourite chocolates - whatever you fancy (just keep the weight of the package in mind when sending!).
Early on in the semester, plan a trip to see each other - you could do a tour to each of your friends Uni or even plan a visit to visit you for a weekend. It’s a great way to keep in touch as you’ll have to plan the trip and have something to look forward to - you can show them your favourite places you’ve discovered, or discover some new places together.
Home for the Holidays
When my friends and I were studying, we found the easiest time for us to meet up was when we were all home for the holidays. We knew we’d have a few days to overlap, so we’d organise to meet for breakfast, brunch, lunch, dinner, coffee or drinks as much as possible, basically any time we were all free - and it was like we’d never been away. We would catch each other up on what had been going on, and talk about our lives. Sometimes we’d go for weeks, or even months, without talking, especially when life was busy or stressful, but we’d always make the time to see each other when we were home.
Did someone say Holiday?
Yes, I did, in the point before! But a holiday is a great way to see your friends - you’ll plan the trip together (which is a great way to stay in touch) and then you’ll have the holiday together, and the memories afterwards. And if the student loan will cover it, you might even have a few pennies spare for a holiday with your new uni friends too.
Just because you’re away from home, doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your favourite TV shows together! Organise a weekly catch up to settle down and watch your programmes at the same time, and live message your reactions to one and other. It’s great when someone is a few seconds out and you can’t spoil it for the other!
Create a playlist of your favourite songs - and keep adding to it! Play it on your commute to uni and reminisce memories that spark when you hear a certain song - it’s a great way to feel connected to one and other.
Some friends are for life, and distance will never change that. If you feel like you're drifting apart - tell them and organise some time to reconnect!
Just remember to sing 'I'll be there for you, 'cause you're there for me too!'
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